I never envisioned our 2020 to be like this. I remember being hopeful when January came, I remember being excited about our plans, and most of all I remember being free to see my girlfriend anytime I want.
I know, I know before you say I am complaining, I am not. I am just frustrated with the situation, the government, and I cannot help but feel sepanxed, especially with my girlfriend's love language being acts of service and quality time, I am really frustrated. I mean, how would I even suffice that need.
Then when my head cleared, I knew what I could do from home. Thankfully, there is still this online flower shop in Metro Manila that helped me show my love for my girl.
Why did not I think of a flower delivery immediately
Because sending her Ecuadorian roses and tulips have already been set like a normal thing for me to do, I am not like other people who would be bringing their girlfriends flowers when there is only an occasion. I bring her flowers every month as a reminder of how much she means to me. It is not just a tradition, it is an urge for me. Hence, I wanted to do more for her this quarantine season.
However, there is something more in this flower delivery, it is the fact that she was surprised by the present. I guess I could live with that even if I was not the one who handed them to her.
Loving someone whose love language is Acts of Service
We started dating during the first week of October last year, she was my officemate but not from the Marketing department which I belonged to. She is six years older than me, yes. And we are from two different fields of work. She is an accountant and I am a writer. My love language is, surprise, Words of Affirmation, and hers Acts of Service.
I nervously laughed off a cold sweat, acts of service and words of affirmation are polar opposites of the love languages, as we are. She is not wordy and she is very much focused on actions, while well, I could adjust and I did, not that it was hard, it was completely fine. When I learned that it was her love language, I never failed to make her feel as if I was not there. For her, my presence means everything, no words just actions.
I understood that sometimes, she could be quite feisty, there are times that I am sad and I just want to mope and be weak all day, I mean I would get over it, let me be dramatic first, but my girlfriend would be dragging my ass back up because well, actions. I told her where I am coming from though, after all it is all about communication. I told her that when I get sad, I tend to wallow for a bit before standing back up. Sometimes things need to break first before you put them back up.
Also, I know myself, despite being six years younger than her, being in a generation like mine, I know that relationships require work, understanding, trust, and respect. Without one, it could never be healthy. Hence, I'd go great lengths for my girlfriend, but I could admit that she is not everything that my life revolves around in. And I think that is very healthy for both of us.
Flowers and efforts
Until this lockdown that began last March 14, 2020, I had not gotten to see her and it was hard. Usually, we see each other almost every day, we'd have dinner, talk about our day, exchange laughter and then that is it. Now, I am struggling to make her feel as if nothing has come between us. Then I thought of where to buy flowers in Metro Manila, now that every gate in my village has been barred. Other online deliveries, too, have been shut down due to the virus threat, but not Knots PH, thankfully.
I knew there was no way that I would be able to bring the flowers myself so I asked Knots PH, if there is any way that they could hand a note to her too. Finally, during this time, my Word of Affirmation heart was pleased. I settled for less is more, and simply wrote that if each time that I think of her is a step, I could have gone all the way to Mandaluyong by now and be the one to give her the flowers.
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